This has come up a few times within DAOs I'm involved and I feel it's quite a misconception.
I hear people say all the time: "you're so lucky because..."
Whether that's starting/ending the day at a preferred time, opportunity, or any number of things.
Here's the thing; it doesn't make anybody any better or worse than us. It just means they've had more time to be intentional with their lives.
For you? It starts right here and right now, provided you're willing to draw yourself the line in the sand.
How does one design their perfect day?
Step 1: Start with what you need for you.
Here's what I need:
Space including peace and quiet, a good workout (or decompression if a workout may be too intense), meditation, breath, journaling. Food, I take my fuel very seriously as well!
Step 2: Find your peak zones
Breaking News: self care is NOT selfish!
If we can't love and support ourselves how are we going to expect anyone to show us the sides of life we yearn for?
Finding your peak zones is key. We all have our own circadian rhythms. Some of us are night owls, some of us love the mornings.
Some people find they perform better during fitness in the morning, afternoon, or evening.
Let's set the record straight: the only wrong way to do it is not doing it.
Consistency is key, find the hours, days, time windows that you need to perform at your best.
Example: my peak times are
6am - 10am: Self care; workout, green smoothie, journal, meditate (struggle with consistency on this one), learn something new, teach/declare it, prep for work and be productive.
10am - 4pm: Call times. These are my optimal times to be on calls and be social.
4pm is dinner and come 630pm I'm ready to get rid of technology for the day and decompress for the night with a 9-10pm bed time window.
It doesn't have to be a lot, it just has to work for you. It takes time, dedication, and discipline to find your peak times.
Step 3: Be gentle with yourself
Growth is a lifelong adventure. It doesn't end. There will always be another crucible, more stress. New levels, new devils.
Playing a video game we don't trash the disk because we're stuck on a boss. We gather the tools and skills we need to win. Life's no different.
Understand you will falter and make mistakes. Welcome to life. Stand up with a graceful smile and take the humble lesson.
Over time just like riding a bike it will get easier, you will spot your personal trends and be able to further optimize for your perfect day.